Amazing things happen when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, to be seen. When we share some of the pain in our heart, in our life, things change. I believe that. I know that.
This is an abbreviated version of something I posted, a few days ago, on my FB page and in a couple of groups I belong to there:
“I have a son who suffers from schizo-affective disorder. He lives on his own, in Toronto, and November 5 will be his 38th birthday. Sam has no one in his life there, other than his case worker, his housing worker, his psychiatrist and his family doctor. Those are the only adults he has conversation with.
His Dad has Alzheimers and Sam has not seen him, now, since April. It’s just not possible for his Dad to get out, across the city to see him and Sam has no way to get out to see his Dad.
So, on his birthday, he will be alone and the only phone call, the only contact of any kind will be from me. If you felt so inclined, you could mail him a card or a note to wish him Happy Birthday. Alone is not a good place to be, especially on special days like your birthday or Thanksgiving, or Christmas or….
A note, even from a stranger, in the mail, saying “I am a friend of your mom and just wanted to wish you Happy Birthday.” You don’t have to buy a birthday card, because God knows the price of those is outrageous. Just a note card, a slip of paper to let him know someone out there, in the big wide world, is thinking of him.
This was an idea I had in the middle of the night as I thought of him and cried because, as you might imagine, this story has many layers of heart ache and grief. You don’t need to comment or report to me. If your heart is drawn to do this, then it is meant to be.
This might just be one of those middle of the night crazy ideas! (Please do not repost this) “
Something amazing has happened since this post. The first wonderful thing is the number of women who said “yes, I will do this”. And then…………..because when we generate positive, loving, energy out into the world, it changes things, it changes people…..my son got a phone call this morning and he is going to have lunch with his Dad on his birthday. See what happened. We changed the dynamics. You know how “they”, how I say that what we do goes out across the web of life and impacts others? well, yeah, it really does.
So, now we come to today, Nurturing Thursday. I have a friend, who blogs – that’s how we connected – and then we connected on FB and then on Skype. I love her dearly. She is a wonderful, loving, inspiring woman. And she is a great mom.
Her daughter, who is a single mom, with a fantabulous son, has just been diagnosed with thyroid cancer. See, how your heart just dropped, reading that? Yeah…..this is scary stuff….AND we are not going to that place of horrible outcomes. No way, no how. We, all of us who know, or know of this situation are going to do what happened this week with my son. We are going to change things, we are going to send out positive, loving, powerful energy into the web of life for Chelsea.
And here’s how….because just like the situation with Sam, it starts with actions, with us saying “I will” or “I can”. Chelsea’s best friend has already but action into motion. You have to forgive poor sentences and grammar in this post. I am excited and emotional. It’s been that kind of a week.
So, yeah, Chelsea will need to take time off work for treatment – unpaid time. Her mom will need to take time off work to help – unpaid time. And trust me, when I tell you everyone involved is already doing everything they can to help. So……..going back to Chelsea’s best friend….she has set up an on-line fundraiser at “youcaring.com” How perfect is that for a site name?
And here’s what I think….if 200 people gave $10………..well wouldn’t meet the goal of $2000.00 Even I can do that math. So whatever your heart leads you to do. Donating money, a bit or a lot….praying….sending strong healing energies…..it’s all going to impact the web of life.
Here’s the link…..and if you look, you won’t see my name listed amongst those who have contributed and not because I asked to be anonymous, which you can do. I’m waiting for my cc payment to go through and then I’m bouncing over there to help a bit. Just sayin’
okay, so, like I said….here’s the link to Fight for Chelsea